Im a relationship kind of guy. Im not one to have a "fling", or anything one might consider casual when it comes to relationships. This includes random hook ups, FWB, etc. But, I've never had a relationship thats lasted very long, and I've really only been in two. I want a lasting, committed relationship with a woman terribly, but I keep finding myself falling short. I want to experience what its like to be in love, to say "I love you" to a woman that I know loves me. I've been on plenty of dates. Any woman I've been out with, is normally never around past the 3rd date. This has been going on for years. My last relationship was over 4 years ago, and now, at 27, with a great job, house, etc., I find myself at a level of loneliness I never thought I would reach. I have been on dates with 19 women in the last 4 years, and never made it past a few dates. Now, I find it so difficult to summon even the slightest bit of confidence to ask a girl out, that I haven't even tried in months. I hate to say I've given up, but that seems to be the case. I have built up so much stress and anxiety over it all that I can't deal with it anymore. My friends seem perplexed as to why this happens to me over and over again. They tell me Im a great guy, and women should be fighting over me. Maybe they are just trying to cheer me up. I've managed to focus solely on work and nothing else. I dont like to drink, and no Im not suicidal, so lets rule that out now. I just need to figure out how to change.
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Where do you meet these women and what do you look for in them?
The fact you are successful in picking up "dates" means you are somewhat successful. So I would say that you should continue to try and meet more women to date but focus on your own life, outside of relationships, as well.
Perhaps the course of the relationship is where the issue is. Do you take things slow and try to get to know these women before taking the next step?1