He is 28 I am 21. When we first me he as really sexual at first but he calmed down from it. However, he always talks about himself, belittles me (grammar), he never asked about anything about me, he only texted and messaged me, first date he talked a lot about his ex's each one was different (he has to many ex's). But at the end of this dating thing or what ever it was he got a little sexual again via text and I told him I just could not do it. Mainly due to the fact that I was sexually abused in the past and it was traumatic (need to take it slow-due to triggers). After that he said everything is fine but after that I never heard from him unless I text him.. he never initiated again. Now he is saying on fb (stupid site) that he has a preference for a different race of girl (that obviously is not me). I gave him slack b/c he was in the military-that was a mistake. We only talked for three months.
He only lives a state away but we met in person for a date. He is in the military if that has anything to do with it. I don't talk to him anymore but why would someone do this?
Did I do something wrong? Was it hypocritical that he could not hear one thing about my past but he told me things about his that were similar. What can I do in the future to avoid this when I date someone else?
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It sounds being you were not this 'Booty call' babe, he has found many lame duck excuses to Stop contacting you And----Got cold bird feet. I believe from what I am reading this is Mostly what this soldier was after, and I will not stray from my answer.
Anytime a guy doesn't ask you Anything about yourself, is all octopussy, and then comes up with all these lame brain excuses, along with putting you on their pay no mind list, he is After a little thing called---------Sweet Cherry love.
Forget him, sweetie, be glad he 'Dismissed' himself from your life. And now you know what a sweet 'Still a virgin' like yourself has to 'Look for' when a smooth operator comes rolling around.
Good luck. xx1
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