She is my best friend. I know her for 3 years now. I kissed her two months ago, and formally asked her out about a month ago. Before I asked her... she could tell something was on my mind and asked me if I was alright. I asked and she asked for time to think things over. A few days later I was away on a business trip... she sent me a message that she hadn't forgotten about me asking her, said she was still thinking things over and that she had some other stuff going on in her life right now that she had to deal with. I said okay and that I understood.
A few weeks go by... after a few awkward days we hang out several times and go back to normal. Flash forward to about a month after I asked her. I go away for a weekend to a friends wedding. I didn't tell her I'd be gone. She sends me a text to hang out the night of the wedding. I say I'm sorry but I'm busy. She replies "If you're mad at me you have every right to be. Go do your thing and we'll chat later. ;)"
I've been trying to hang out with her the last few days, but she's in the middle of a big project for work. And we're going on vacation in a week, and I'd like to know WTF is going on before hand.
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Being you Both have this 'Bestie friend' Relationship, she most likely 'Hasn't said anything definite' because----She is scared of botching up what you Both have, scared it won't be the same, should something go wrong by you 'Formally asked her out a month ago.' And of course, with her life in a small uproar, it seemed More added headaches. I can understand this.
Now I see a few misunderstandings with your Always Open lines of Communication. However, an easy fix to patch That up in a heart beat, so once you see one another, I don't see where That can't be repaired in a jiffy.
You mentioned about 'Going on vacation in a week,' so Until that happens, give her a chance to finish her 'Big project for work'. This way she will be able to focus on you and whatever else you both need to work out.
And as I say, do some soul searching on the part about your friendship having a monkey wrench put in it, should something go bananas... It's worth taking some time while waiting for her to 'Finis up' what she needs to right now.
Good luck. xx1
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