Been seeing a guy for roughly a month. He's shown good signs of interest- like making lots of time for me and such and always being cute and sweet.
He wants to put off dating for a while, which I found odd. He gave me an explanation why and it made sense- long distance and lack of ability to put in a time commitment.
He did say he wouldn't see anyone else until we began dating and also that I am the girl who he would make his gf if he could handle a relationship.
He basically said we should keep in touch and continue to get to know eachother, but without the pressure of a commitment because we both just don't have the time to devote to one another.
Weird thing though. I got major mixed signals. He would say that he would want other guys to hit on me and that I should feel free to see other guys if I want.
Seemed like he wanted the freedom to talk to other girls and wanted to come off as the "nice guy".
Oddly he didn't contact me much after I moved home. Just generally unresponsive. Also did nothing for my birthday- just have me a 15 min phone call.
He would randomly say we aren't exclusive, but definitely not act like that in person. We would act like a couple and he would act exactly like my boyfriend. Saying "we" and accidentally calling himself my bf, holding hands and cuddly stuff, taking about our parents a lot, etc.
I got MAJOR mixed signals basically. So I was very confused.
I found out that he's currently active on a dating app. Seemed extremely sketchy.
I got upset and I didn't blow up but I tried calling and he didn't reply, so I sent him a message on Facebook telling him I felt led on and just confused. And that I didn't get why he needed to be active on that app.
I made sure not to come off as accusatory and I kept a level head and told him why I felt the way I did and that I wanted him to explain.
Am I justified for being upset? Very sketch behavior, right?
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Bring this up with him and if he's unwilling to tackle these issues head on (or at least try to) than its probably best to move. Its okay to ask a partner where they stand to them and if they can't be honest about that than its no worth the hassle.0