My girlfriend and I had quite a rocky start with the situation. Things have gotten better, of course the relationship requires a lot of trust and communication. We've managed to make it work, but I was curious on everyone else's opinion of dating someone male or female in the military.
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When I met my husband he was in the Navy. We started dating but he knew that I wouldn't get serious with a military person since I saw my parents marriage end in divorce because of it. He ended up getting out and we eventually got married. We were marred for almost 15yrs and 3 kids later when he told me he wanted to go back into the service to finish his 20yrs. I had a lot of mixed feelings about this but overall I wanted to support his choice. He joined back in the Army and our first station he was deployed right away. It was a very difficult transition for me and our kids since they were teenagers and understood so much more then younger kids. However I am so thankful that we had so many years together to build a strong foundation in our marriage first. I think that is what has really helped over the last few years as opposed to if we would have been together while he was in the Navy.
I will say living on post, and meeting some of these younger couples, I have never seen so many adulteress marriages. If a young couple makes that decision to get married while either or both are serving it is imperative that they have strong communication skills with each other and trust. There are so many people that will cause issues and lies it is quit draining. Both people involved really needs to fully understand what is being asked of each other. My husband has been in Afghanistan for almost 2yrs now. It is hard not having him around and that companionship. Not to mention no sex. But the bottom line for me is there is nothing I have encountered that is worth losing my marriage over. So I keep myself busy running our store and raising our teenagers until he can retire and be home. Relatively speaking this is such a small amount of time when compared to the rest of our lives. April next year will be 20yrs marriage and I still love, desire, lust and even like my husband. I can't wait for the next chapter of our lives.1