I started dating this guy. During our last date, without getting into a whole big story, I was talking about the type of clients I see (I work in healthcare) and I said something like, "Yeah, and they are big, tall guys -- like yourself -- and burly..."
And he goes, "What's burly?" (Note English is not his native language)
And I said, "Muscly". And he goes," Oh, thank you, you think I have muscles..." and he seemed quite flattered.
But that's not what I meant. I was referring to his height (He is VERY tall). And I would actually prefer it if he started lifting weights again. He hardly has any muscle. He is lean but a bit out of shape.
When we first started dating, he mentioned that he started going to the gym again (weightlifting), but this was back in February. And we only recently reconnected this month...
(I know this sounds shallow, sorry, but I can't help admiring a guy with a nice strong chest and shoulders, ;) )
Most Helpful Guy
I'm sure you know gym and sticking to a bland diet takes a bit of self-motivation.
You can't really persuade someone to go through being in pain and sore almost every day of the week after a good workout unless he's REALLY determined to be in shape so... ehhhhhhhh
Find a way to make him motivate himself maybe?
Careful tho , people tend to blame others than themselves for a situation so... ssssss... hard choices.0