Have been single most of my life. Told at times that I am attractive. I am now 30, told I look younger, am very slim etc. I mostly meet men in nightclubs and party situations and a few online. Same pattern ensues. I send polite non intense, topline messages, and don't write anything weird. I don't know where else to meet guys, and I don't want to proactively 'look' (i think these things should be organic and guys should chase' and i don't go out just to meet men etc, so dont want to go out my way to do so? Just wondering if you guys can shed some light on why the guys just disappear. Do you guys ask for girl's numbers, when you are not interested and why? thanks
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" I send polite non intense, topline messages, "
So you write generic platonic, nothing at all sexy or flirty or *interested* messages... and then you wonder why they aren't interested in you?
"I don't want to proactively 'look' "
Right, otherwise you might actually *find* something, and we don't want that, do we?
In simplest terms a guy will ask for your number if he's physically attracted to you - but that's just the proverbial foot in the door. If you don't do something, he's not going to actively pursue you. You know this now from long experience.
When he asks for your number, decide if you're interested in him. And if you are, then your messages had BETTER indicate that to some extent. Some sort of playful flirtation which signals your mutual interest, had better find it's way from your keyboard to his eyeballs.
Otherwise, you've just told another guy you're not interested in him, and he moves on to the next girl.1
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