My female friends follow the rules below
* Don't respond to texts for 1-2 days and takes ages to respond to any kind of attempted communication
* Don't accept a date requests issued after Wednesday
* Don't make it clear that you are dating him exclusively - be ambiguous and always state that you are busy, busy, busy (so he wonders what you are doing), and therefore works hard to make you his gf.
* Expect 'Princess' treatment (i. e extreme chivalry etc) and just phase him out /ignore him if you don't receive that.
The reason I ask is because I have done some of the above when I am not interested in guys, and they still chase.
Yet, when I have done the same stuff to men I do like (as my friends say that ironically that gets them more interested), they disappear.
And yes, I am 'just myself'(don't play games) nowadays, but was just curious as to what guys think of the above.
Look at it 'retrospectively' please, vs commenting on whether you 'like' the sound of the above. i. e, did you chase girls that behaved that way, and are any of these women your girlfriends or wives now?
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Girls play hard to get because they don't want to seem too easy. They are acting. When you play hard to get you only attract guys that are into figuring out games and that are trying to "win" you over. Manipulative people end up with manipulative people because we attract people with similar emotional make up. It is referred to as assortment theory. Guys who aren't into games will simply see your "not calling" as lack of interest. They will take your actions at face value or will simply not see the value in putting the "effort" you want them to.
Of course once upon a time I used to be the guy who'd try to out game gaming women, but now when I meet a girl who behaves that way, I stop contacting her. There's this girl I called 2 or 3 times last month and she never got back to me. She texted me a few days ago and she even had a picture of us together on her profile, which surprised me, but I didn't answer back. Dating people who are into games is just too much effort then I am willing to expend.
Dating is 1000 times easier when you have the balls to be honest.
I know some will probably think you are a man you should make the "effort"... Just view it this way. If your self-worth is derived from yourself, then you depend less on attention to the drama of men/women. But if your self-worth is derived of others, then you'll give your full attention to men/women's drama. This is becoming too technical and long... I hope I answered your question.6
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