I've never had a serious boyfriend and I'm 16. I am not fat nor skinny, just a regular size I guess. Not to be conceded but my friends (girls and guys) always tell me I'm really pretty and have a good personality. No guys really talk to me except the ones I know. Some will talk, text, or snapchat me but will quit replying within a few days. When I tell people this they are shocked that no one likes me. My friends are showered with boys. They have all the attention in the world. When they have a breakup, there always is another one there for them. I'm not active sexually because I've never had anyone but I feel like this is the reason. All of my friends are, so I feel like this is why all of the guys like them. Most people say that me and my 3 best girl friends look similar. I just don't understand why no guys will show interest in me. I've talked to my sister about it and she says that she thinks guys are intimidated my me because of my looks. I don't agree with this because they have nothing to be intimidated by. I'm nothing special. I just really want someone to be there for me and that I can spend time with. It's hard for me and I feel different because everyone I know has this and they don't have to worry like I do. But once I start to like a guy and thinks he likes me, my 2 friends immediately go to him, even though one is in a relationship and the other just had a breakup. I don't think they do this intentionally because I'm not sure if they know I like him. Do guys not like me/ talk to me or give me the time of day because I don't put out (sexually) ? I don't want to be known as one that is promiscuous. Tell me the truth please. I've been needing it and no one can help me. I just want to know what I'm doing wrong or what I need to do that is right.
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Ask your friends to try hook you up with someone if you think they're reliable enough. If that's out of the question, just try and meet new people if things aren't working out with the people that you know already. Who knows, maybe some people are showing interest and you're just not noticing the signs - I personally moved on from a girl if she didn't seem to be responding to signs I left. I say this in past tense because I generally say it to them or imply it to them through something I say.
I concur with UniqueDude, something will eventually happen if you ask out the guy before your friends get the chance to move in. Alternatively, you could always tell these friends that you're interested in the guy so they know not to go for him.
I'll be honest, you not being sexually active could be a factor in this. Whether it's a major or a minor one depends on how you guys do things over there - in Dublin, Ireland where I live it's hard to find people that aren't sexually active by 16 and the ones that aren't tend not to do much fast (which they shouldn't unless they're ready for it) so while some guys won't be deterred by this, other guys will end up going for another girl that is sexually active because not only will she most likely put out, but also she'll be more experienced and that can make a big difference. You can call them shallow, immature or "players" but we're teenage guys, anyone who expects us not to try and satisfy our sexual urges is asking for a lot. But I suppose it's probably different where you're from. Anyway, I'm not saying fucking the first guy that shows mutual interest in you, but just bear this in mind.
Also, if you do decide to put out to someone, just remember that you can't be considered as promiscuous if you only put out to a couple of people. People with names tend to have gotten around to quite a few people before gaining their reputation.
I hope this is helpful.0