I know her for 3 years. We're best friends, seen each other date other people, hang out 2-3 times a week, know everything about one another, practically to the point where while we don't finish each other's sentences, we know when there is something wrong with the other, when there's something on the others mind that we need/want to talk about, or when we're holding something back. (This creeps me out, but is also kind of comforting in a way.)
I'm the kind of guy who's not good with words, but I know how to show I care for you. (She actually says that I'm very charming when I talk, but hold judgement) 3 months ago I gave her a kiss... she threw me the best birthday party I'd ever had. About a month and a half ago I decide to risk it all and ask her out. Having seen her shoot down plenty of other guys I was ready for anything but I knew I was different by the way she treats me, but I wasn't sure on her wanting to build a relationship with me... but I decided to risk everything for her.
So I ask her. Granted, I'll be the first to tell you I really botched asking her. We went out to dinner and had a great time, but my timing was off, and I was really nervous (she sensed that something was on my mind) before I asked her. But I did it! She was caught off guard and asked for time to think about it. Things got awkward for about 4 days, but we promised each other that this shouldn't compromise our friendship, and we worked things back to normal.
I know her well enough that if you give time/space, she'll tell what's on her mind. So I don't bring the topic up again, but we continue to hang out 1-2+ times a week. Flash forward a month after asking her. I invite her to hang out at a bar, and she asks me if its a date (all via text). Side step the question and ask her about it later. "I wanted to make sure we're on the same page." - Which is? - "I'm still thinking about it". We talked out a lot very comfortably, but I sense there is more. How I get her to open up more?
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I think she probably is afraid of ruining your friendship because she cares about you and doesn't want to loose you. It's posible that she likes you back but she's afraid that if you start dating it might get awkward or end terribly. If I was in her place I would probably be really scared about loosing someone that knows me that well and with whom I have a relationship like yours.
I suggest that you ask her to hang out one day and take her to a place you both feel comfortable in and you can ask her directly if she's afraid and simply talk things through...
An opcion is that you can do like a test drive. you date for a month or two weeks and talk about how you feel after that and decide what you think is best for both of you. And agree that there won't be any hard feelings and always feel confident that you can say exactly how you feel.0