I've gotten asked out a total of two times in my entire life. Once was 12 years ago... the other was with my current BF after we had been hanging out for a month and a half already. It sucks... I always hear about other girls getting asked out and it makes me feel like a reject or that there is something wrong with me... I used to take it really hard.
@lukino, I really don't buy the idea that guys don't approach because they are intimidated. I feel a little better because I got my first boyfriend... at the ripe old age of 28... but what made me a bit upset was that he didn't really directly even ask me out... he got closer to me by hanging out with my group of friends... and then got closer to me and had my friend convince me to hang out with him too. I was the one that gave him my number first... he didn't ask for it... and I told him we should hang out.
I've never been asked out, never had a boyfriend, never been on a date. what a sad 17 years of life haha although technically I am in a long distance relationship.. but that just kind of happened. No one asked out anyone. it just built up to what it now is :)
wow, looking at how many cute girls on GAG who have put up their pictures, I thought most girls would vote C or even D... I wonder why the majority answers "almost never"...
I also voted "almost never". I get asked out probably about once a year, maybe even less than that. But I'm not someone you'd call pretty, so I guess that's to be expected.
I've been asked out loads of times online. Two out of three of my boyfriends asked me out. I've had a couple confess their feelings for me. Nothing too major. I'm usually in relationships so guys don't ask me out. If I was single, it'd probably happen more.
Depends on how active my social life is at the moment. Like, when I go out a lot, I get asked out on regular basis. If I only occasionally go out, I only get asked out sometimes. And during times where I mostly stay at home and/or do private things, not socializing with new people, I obviously don't get asked out at all.
Depends on how often I'm out and about but on average, on an actual date, maybe 3x a year. It's mostly just asking for phone number (or getting phone number from mutual friend if he has zero valor/balls) then asking to "hang out." So disappointing. Just say, "you're pretty, I want to take you out."
"Just say, "you're pretty, I want to take you out."" -
If only it were that easy. That kind of line has never worked for me or any guy I have ever known. Maybe for a super good looking guy, but the rest of us have to play the game. It's been my experience that pretty (attractive) girls know that they are and don't need to be told. It's so obvious and unoriginal that employing such tactics comes off as cliche and pathetic.
Once when I was just shopping a guy came up to me and he said: ''Hmmmm... hi... I just thought you where cute soooo yeah want to have a coffee?'' and I was so shocked because this happens so rarely so I just looked at him then smiled then just walked away still in shock... It's probably impossible to do this without things getting awkward...
i think (most) men are scared to a point where they dont like to hear a no.. it touches the ego of men when rejected. that probably also the reason why 'hooking up' is the thing from today. in the end they can either decide to be friends or take it further. i could also be wrong here.. but thats just what i think.
I just hit on girls whenever I feel like i'm ready for a relationship...
I sometimes get rejected but most of the time they give me their number and I get to know them better. Maybe it's just because I don't really want sex and it shows...
Can you answer my question too? :) hgirlsaskguys. com/dating/q1135871-to-girls-getting-hit-on-this-question-is-for-you
Well, if I'm anywhere that serves alcohol it's quite often lol. I think overall I'd go with "sometimes". It's also kinda up to me. I've noticed that... if I'm out and around, smiling and being friendly, it's a lot more likely to happen. When I'm keeping to myself, not so much. Which makes sense of course.
I am a bit shocked and appalled at how many girls actually get harassed by guys/dudes who think that will get the girl to give them their numbers. WTF? Has the bar on how to flirt sucken that low? I flirt all the time even with no intention of getting a number simply because I find it fun. I do get numbers here and there but never disrespect nor harass and then expect to get a number... I'm a bit discombobulated right now. Need time to wrap my head around this.
On average, every 3 or 4 months if the guy wants to pursue a relationship with me. Dating is more common, usually 1 or 2 guys every month or two. It is hard for me to really like a guy and want to be in a relationship with them, I have grown to be picky but I do not complain to anyone.
I get harrassed a lot, but a guy actually asking for a date like a human being isn't that common. Usually just a proposition to "chill" or have sex in a crude obnoxious way. It seems like guys with tact keep to themselves while the guys who fling their feces about are the most obnoxious and loud.
I'm taken currently and I'm a non monogamus person,.
I can count the number of times I've been asked out on one hand. And they were all way back in the day (9th grade). I assume I must have lost my touch. :p
Or it could be the fact that I manage to bring up the boyfriend up after meeting people within the first 5 minutes.
i think iit depends on the guy.. i can't say A because thats the situation because its not fair... i mean maybe i just met guys that where like that but i honestly believe that there are guys that ask girls out but most of them are waiting for the girl to make the first move and that almost always does not happen
I've only had one BF... my current one that I've had since the age of 28... he didn't ask me out directly... he got close with my friend group from school and started hanging out with us... and he got my close friend to convince me to go out with him... he later confessed that he used my friends just to get closer to me.
i dont go out of my way to get dates. i usually meet people through work and often times dont bother with people at work because why would i want to do that tp myself? if it didn't work out itd be all awkward and shit at work, work sucks enough as it is. every girl I've dumped has hated me afterwards not even friendship material. just dont like to force things i guess. shouldn't have that forced feeling, everything should just feel natural when iam having chemistry with somebody
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I always try to ask girls I have met out on a date... but they always say this to me:
"I'm sorry, I can't go out today... I'm busy."
"Sorry. I'm busy all week."
"Sorry. I literally have 0 time."
If I was good at hooking up with women, I'd just hit it and quit it.
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I've gotten asked out a total of two times in my entire life. Once was 12 years ago... the other was with my current BF after we had been hanging out for a month and a half already. It sucks... I always hear about other girls getting asked out and it makes me feel like a reject or that there is something wrong with me... I used to take it really hard.
Well you are very attractive so all the guys feel intimidated
it's unbelievable that she hasn't been asked out a LOT
@lukino, I really don't buy the idea that guys don't approach because they are intimidated. I feel a little better because I got my first boyfriend... at the ripe old age of 28... but what made me a bit upset was that he didn't really directly even ask me out... he got closer to me by hanging out with my group of friends... and then got closer to me and had my friend convince me to hang out with him too. I was the one that gave him my number first... he didn't ask for it... and I told him we should hang out.
I never got asked out to one high school dance... never even went to prom... and it's not like I was a geek or anything like that
That's really odd. Seems like what's happening is that guys are just becoming wimps more than anything else.
Lol... yeah... maybe. I even used to wear a shirt that said "I'm Single" in hopes of drawing in prospects but it didn't work... at all.
Hahahahahaha. I like this question. The answers are funny considering the standards of these girls.
Anyway, as a guy I've only been asked out (kind of) by one girl. The rest if they really showed interest would do silly stuff, but never just ask.
I've never been asked out, never had a boyfriend, never been on a date. what a sad 17 years of life haha
although technically I am in a long distance relationship.. but that just kind of happened. No one asked out anyone. it just built up to what it now is :)
wow, looking at how many cute girls on GAG who have put up their pictures, I thought most girls would vote C or even D... I wonder why the majority answers "almost never"...
I also voted "almost never". I get asked out probably about once a year, maybe even less than that. But I'm not someone you'd call pretty, so I guess that's to be expected.
I've been asked out loads of times online. Two out of three of my boyfriends asked me out. I've had a couple confess their feelings for me. Nothing too major. I'm usually in relationships so guys don't ask me out. If I was single, it'd probably happen more.
Depends on how active my social life is at the moment. Like, when I go out a lot, I get asked out on regular basis. If I only occasionally go out, I only get asked out sometimes. And during times where I mostly stay at home and/or do private things, not socializing with new people, I obviously don't get asked out at all.
I voted C.
Depends on how often I'm out and about but on average, on an actual date, maybe 3x a year. It's mostly just asking for phone number (or getting phone number from mutual friend if he has zero valor/balls) then asking to "hang out." So disappointing. Just say, "you're pretty, I want to take you out."
"Just say, "you're pretty, I want to take you out."" -
If only it were that easy. That kind of line has never worked for me or any guy I have ever known. Maybe for a super good looking guy, but the rest of us have to play the game. It's been my experience that pretty (attractive) girls know that they are and don't need to be told. It's so obvious and unoriginal that employing such tactics comes off as cliche and pathetic.
I don't know any girl who doesn't like to be told she's pretty. If a girl doesn't hear it enough she starts to think that it's not true. Bam. Fact.
Once when I was just shopping a guy came up to me and he said: ''Hmmmm... hi... I just thought you where cute soooo yeah want to have a coffee?'' and I was so shocked because this happens so rarely so I just looked at him then smiled then just walked away still in shock... It's probably impossible to do this without things getting awkward...
This is exactly why guys don't approach girls and ask them out.
Yup, this is exactly why. It's awkward 100% of the time. You have to be friends first, and that takes too much effort, lol.
i think (most) men are scared to a point where they dont like to hear a no.. it touches the ego of men when rejected. that probably also the reason why 'hooking up' is the thing from today. in the end they can either decide to be friends or take it further. i could also be wrong here.. but thats just what i think.
I just hit on girls whenever I feel like i'm ready for a relationship...
I sometimes get rejected but most of the time they give me their number and I get to know them better. Maybe it's just because I don't really want sex and it shows...
Can you answer my question too? :)
hgirlsaskguys. com/dating/q1135871-to-girls-getting-hit-on-this-question-is-for-you
Well, if I'm anywhere that serves alcohol it's quite often lol. I think overall I'd go with "sometimes". It's also kinda up to me. I've noticed that... if I'm out and around, smiling and being friendly, it's a lot more likely to happen. When I'm keeping to myself, not so much. Which makes sense of course.
I am a bit shocked and appalled at how many girls actually get harassed by guys/dudes who think that will get the girl to give them their numbers. WTF? Has the bar on how to flirt sucken that low? I flirt all the time even with no intention of getting a number simply because I find it fun. I do get numbers here and there but never disrespect nor harass and then expect to get a number... I'm a bit discombobulated right now. Need time to wrap my head around this.
On average, every 3 or 4 months if the guy wants to pursue a relationship with me. Dating is more common, usually 1 or 2 guys every month or two. It is hard for me to really like a guy and want to be in a relationship with them, I have grown to be picky but I do not complain to anyone.
Picky = Stuck up.
I guess you can say that lol but I don't complain about it to my family or friends... so yeah :)
Nothing wrong with picky.
I get harrassed a lot, but a guy actually asking for a date like a human being isn't that common. Usually just a proposition to "chill" or have sex in a crude obnoxious way. It seems like guys with tact keep to themselves while the guys who fling their feces about are the most obnoxious and loud.
I'm taken currently and I'm a non monogamus person,.
I can count the number of times I've been asked out on one hand. And they were all way back in the day (9th grade). I assume I must have lost my touch. :p
Or it could be the fact that I manage to bring up the boyfriend up after meeting people within the first 5 minutes.
Well considering I'm a minor... I don't even know where I'm headed with this. Consistently.
They just don't care I'm under age.
As for boys sometimes. I get hit on much more than asked out with guys round my age, but every now and again a few guys actually ask me out.
i think iit depends on the guy.. i can't say A because thats the situation because its not fair... i mean maybe i just met guys that where like that but i honestly believe that there are guys that ask girls out but most of them are waiting for the girl to make the first move and that almost always does not happen
As everyone else, I'm a little surprised at the result. Then again, I almost never approach either.
But questions for the ladies that almost never get approached. How did you get with your boyfriends? Or are you eternal singles because of it?
I've only had one BF... my current one that I've had since the age of 28... he didn't ask me out directly... he got close with my friend group from school and started hanging out with us... and he got my close friend to convince me to go out with him... he later confessed that he used my friends just to get closer to me.
i dont go out of my way to get dates. i usually meet people through work and often times dont bother with people at work because why would i want to do that tp myself? if it didn't work out itd be all awkward and shit at work, work sucks enough as it is. every girl I've dumped has hated me afterwards not even friendship material. just dont like to force things i guess. shouldn't have that forced feeling, everything should just feel natural when iam having chemistry with somebody
I always try to ask girls I have met out on a date... but they always say this to me:
"I'm sorry, I can't go out today... I'm busy."
"Sorry. I'm busy all week."
"Sorry. I literally have 0 time."
If I was good at hooking up with women, I'd just hit it and quit it.