I think players are pretty sick guys. The way they approach a girl- just wanting sex but coming up with a bunch of lies and even some romantic gestures to fool her Into giving in.
I just find it sick how they can lie to a girl and make her feel so special but really not be feeling any of those things. They just see it as a step closer to getting what they want.
And when they get dumped and see they didn't fool the girl, they manipulate the girl into being the crazy one, or at least feeling like she is.
Idk, they can't be stupid and have to know the girl will feel used at the end of it.
I dumped one recently who didn't fool me and told him that he shouldn't treat other girls like me and lead them on, because he will make the girls feel used and manipulated.
I was extremely composed and classy in the way I dumped him, and he tried to make me think I was crazy and even manipulate me into feeling sorry for him- like he did have some good intention and I was mean and assumed the worst, that I attacked him and blah blah.
It's just so sad to me that guys like this exist. He deserved a lot more hell from me and I was so proud of Keeping it classy on my end and logically pointing out to him how he played me.
Do these guys ever learn anything? And are they really common? I just feel so sorry for guys like this- I really think they have problems.
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The type of player you talk about, I really haven't seen often. I know they are out there. Arguably many of them are narcissists.
Most guys who self identify as players where I live, who are post high school age, don't enter relationships -at all- and are very clear all along they just like to 'have fun' and stay casual and aren't looking for a relationship. When you have a culture where hooking up is not uncommon, the girls who hook up choose to hook up with guys who are 'hook up' guys, not 'relationship' guys. So talking about relationships actually gets you laid less.
The guys you are talking about operate more in groups where casual sex is very rare.
Do the guys you are talking about learn anything? They've already learned a lot, and are applying it. Basically they are entirely selfish, and everything they learn they use to manipulate others more. They will never feel guilty. They have problems, but they're actually quite happy.0
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