To start, im not a feminist, im just a realist.
Im 21 years old, i have my own apartment, car, and career where i make 30-60 dollars an hour, so i do pretty good for myself, as should every woman my age.
But it always seems when i meet guys, or i talk to them, or see answers on questions on here, men are always talking about how a girl better be offering the best sex or she better be the smartest woman or best housekeeper. its always that the woman should be going above and beyond for her man and that she better have special skills and talents and she should just treat her man like he's a god and she's lucky to be with him...
but then the man acts like he doesn't need to offer anything in the relationship but just being there. Why is it that men expect everything from us woman who are out here doing what we need to do, and in this day and age, doing better than men, but they dont give crap in return?
Why do you think you're so special?
And again, im not trying to crap on men, i just want real answers and im also not implying that ALL men are the same, this is not a sweeping generalization, its just easier to put this at the end. I love men, not saying i dont.
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I think you're collectively taking every guy's opinion on their "ideal" mate and combining them which gives the impression that each guys collectively wants all these things.
Honestly, a lot girls I see nowadays are just wallflowers expecting guys to do everything for them too. I got a coworker who kicked his girlfriend outta his place because he was tired of doing her clothes and letting her stay there when she did nothing but get spoiled. Plus I honestly see a lot of girls with "laundry lists" as people call them where they want "Mr. Perfect" and this huge list of "must have's" is at the bottom of their dating profile and it's so big that... years later... they're still on the site actively looking shouting "There are no good guys left!" on their profiles.
So this honestly goes both ways. I think guys are far more laid back. If anything, I see guys being criticized for only basing their "standards on looks alone." We got guys chasing some really horrible girls just because they have a nice rack and such.
I personally think that guys need to base their "standards" on more than just looks while girls need to stop basing their "standards" of guys on possessions. Guys know that girls are looking at things like income levels and job titles when they look for a mate.3