So I'm "seeing" this guy. More like a friends w/benefits.
he's over 21 and I'm not, so he talks about going out and drinking and doing drugs, occasionally. He knows I do not care for that stuff and I'm not into that. Yet, he always brings it up. Its really irritating, because the more he talks about it, more dumb and stupid he seems. Then it makes me disgusted to be around him. He also constantly says he wishes I were 21. Its really irritating. Its like wtf, am I supposed to do? Even if I were I wouldn't be hanging around him doing that kind of shit. Sheesh. I don't mind that he does these things, but keeping his mouth shut would help me find him more attractive.
So how can I tell him to shut the f*** up already. Otherwise I'm outta here. Like without sounding like an asshole.
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Hmm. He's over 21, so he can drink. According to you, he doesn't try to get you to participate. But he does discuss what he does openly and honestly, apparently.
As for drugs, you don't want him to stop, right? And you've already said he doesn't try to get you to participate. Because your question has no concern over his drug use or pressure from him, and you've chosen to be with him knowing fully about it. Rather, he's just speaking his mind when you'd rather have him "keeping his mouth shut. " That's your big issue: what he wants to talk about. So, you're ethically fine with being with an illegal drug user, you just want to control what he says. (How do you feel about guys to try to control what you say or want you to shut up, btw? )
Of course you can and should follow nickt's advice to tell him how you feel. But apparently you've chosen to "be silent" instead. So, speak up. If he cares how he makes you feel, he might listen and think about what he says out of respect for your feelings. That's about the best you can hope for.
You could also choose to quit blaming this guy for being himself; he is what he is and you chose to be his friend w/benefits. You're the one choosing to be with this guy that you find "irritating" "dumb" "stupid" who makes you feel "disgusted. " Maybe you SHOULD just be outta there because he does not sound like the right guy for you, and you wanting to tell anyone to "shut the f*** up already" does make you, not him, sound like an asshole.0