I have never had a real GF and I don't chase girls anymore. If your not straight up from the gun I give up. So once I see some signs I make a move and take my chances. When I admit to girls I like them and they get shy and don't say the same back IDC how shy they are I write them off cause I don't want to get lead on. Is this fair or foul I am not patient enough to play games and don't want to get hurt.
What do girls think of guys who refuse to play the game with them and want them to be straight up?
What Girls Said 5
But it's heaps fun playing games! Nothing builds on sexual tension like games. When you say a sexy, dark line to her. She will say something back, just enough to show intrigue, but not enough to be too obvious. You say something about if she keeps playing coy, you'll have to decide for her. Keep up that flirting. As a girl, I can say we don't like just going for it. Well, some do but it just seems very slutty. Kinda desperate. And heaps of guys out there don't like desperate, so we tend to stay clear. Plus for girls it's not about the visuals. You guys can see a chick with big tits and ass and be ready to go. If we see you d*ck, for example, it doesn't do anything for us. Kinda puts us off. We need the mental game. And I don't mean 'emotional attachment' per se, just something SEXY. A story. That tension. We want to give in to you 100%, when we can no longer resist you. And wouldn't it be just so much more fun for you building up a game where the girl will not be able to resist you and just beg for you to take her? My advice? Play the dominant card. Act the typical alpha male. Chicks love that. You can wait for her to come to you first, that WILL happen, but you have to build up the sexual tension, the flirting and being absolutely irresistible.0
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I think its fair... but a version of this you should probably include in your invitation - when you ask them out, because then they'll know they won't get a chance with you unless they're honest and open about what they think of you and if they'd like to date you.
You're being fair to yourself, but be fair to them too and let them know that you don't like games hence you'd like an honest reply...
Also, you should say it in a gentle manner - not to seem frightening of threatening, but genuine. =)0
The game sucks. I hate the chase. I like and want guys to just be straight up because I need to know where I stand so I don't waste my time on someone who just wants to play around. However... I do think that some guys are upfront with their feelings too soon and that could make a girl uncomfortable. If you chat for a while and enjoy each other's company, then be honest and tell her. If she feels the same way, she'll be super excited.
I once had a guy that I just met basically tell me that I was the one he was waiting for all his life and I was just like woaahhhh sir we just met 5 minutes ago. That is never good. But give it some time to see if you really like her and get a sense for how she could be feeling and then take a shot (:0
I get not playing games but if your approach never works you may be doing something wrong like coming off too harsh0
I would not give them a chance.0
What Guys Said 3
I wish that was the case, even if the gender role that the guy is expected to be the initiator, I would be able to deal with it better if there were no mental or mind games involved, instead getting straight to the point but oh well you can't fight or change life, reality unfortunately0
Dating requires communication - so that people get their message from one and another
Trust - so people can rely on each other when in dire problems
Cooperation - so people can be mature when dating
Compromise - so people can work out their relationship
Those 4 are the healthy ways of a relationship. If you date someone who doesn't have one of those 4, fuck em0
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