My new BF and I were getting ready to meet his best friend and his wife for dinner, and he told me that two years ago, before his friend started dating her, that he and the wife slept together a handful of times. Nothing serious, just sex for a few months. I was so uncomfortable during the whole dinner and I wished he hadn't told me. These are people we are going to hang with a lot. Was it really necessary for him to tell me? How do I handle this?
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Yeah, that's definitely TMI. He should have kept that information to himself.
On the other hand, if the issue had come up during dinner (or at any time in your long future of hanging together), at least you had been briefed by your BF.
I mean, if all three were "in on it" and you got left out, your question would be, "shouldn't he have TOLD me? Instead I was SO embarrassed when I found out... they knew the WHOLE time!"
So it really depends on the intent of your BF, and the dynamic of the dinner. I think he could've spared you that info for obvious reasons. Perhaps you can ask him why he volunteered that info to you, and discuss how you want to deal with that kind of stuff in the future.
Let him know where you stand on discussing past partners and romances. The way he deals with the discussion will give you some clues about who he is, what makes him tick, and whether the two of you click : )1