Well why do i have the need to stalk the one i dated and that rejected me? always i do this.. why can't i just let go..
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Any relationship is destined for one of three outcomes.. mutual agreement that two people are better off being friends, ongoing commitment, or one rejecting the other.
rejection specifically by a woman toward a man... if the woman is seeing someone else a certain territoriality might kick in. by stalking what the ex really seeks is to have a word or two with the 'other guy' and kick his ass. very few men actually act on this. sometimes it can go to a bit darker level of obsession, but obsession with a purpose. Whether toward a stranger or someone he knows, this individual has created an identity based his experiences or even his perceptions of a woman. He believes a relationship is 'destined' to be. People like that need not be dangerous but they can also be hard to shake. This is the situation where restraining orders and so forth become an issue.
When a woman is rejected by a man, most often she is both hurt but angry that she did not get the last word, the upper hand as it has been called. This this is a simple motive but it takes a lot of time to dissipate and in rare cases never does. This kind of 'stalker' is more subtle, often stewing for months or years, then reigniting a friendship in which she herself can somehow reject the guy who ditched her. For some odd reason this creates a sense of 'balance' in the female.
We hear very very rarely of women who physically stalk a man out of some delusion about their destiny together. Years ago there was a film called 'Fatal Attraction' which depicted something like this. The movie was enormously popular precisely because it was fiction and because the behavior was so directly unfamiliar to people in general.1
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