Its nearly 4 am. Another night out with friends, and another night of coming home to an empty house, with nothing but my thoughts. I am constantly beset by the failures of my life. I am told by girls who are friends that I am the greatest guy ever, that I am the type any girl would love to have, etc. Yet here I am, again, sitting in my chair, in a dark, empty home, surrounded by the things my success has given me. But all of it is shrouded by an overwhelming loneliness that takes over me. I spend the majority of my time alone. I've spent the last 5 years alone. I have no one to love. I've never been in love for that matter. I'm not entirely sure of HOW to love. But it is nonetheless a desire, a burning inside that won't go away. Yet through all of my hard work, focus and perseverance, it is the one aspect of my life that I have yet to grasp. And at times, I fear my heart has become so cold, and so dark, that I will be unable to love. I have built my home, bought my vehicle, and even arranged my finances so that I can have a family. But I can't seem to find a woman who is the least bit interested in me. I struggle with my friends' comments, as the exact opposite of what is said, is the reality. Perhaps I should continue the vicious circle of going out, attempting to meet a potential partner, then come home to review and ponder my shortcomings, or, consider a less methodical and logic-based approach and just "wing it". Perhaps, it is my attention to detail and my analytical mindset that has created success in life, but failure in love. Perhaps. Thoughts, epiphanies, and experiences are welcome.
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Honey some unsolicited, unasked for advice that may piss you off... first you're going to have to learn to enjoy being alone. Learn to be happy alone and be content. Take that time and find what satisfies you and makes you happy. Get a hobby, go out and meet people with no motivation to be in a relationship. I'm gonna tell you that you'll never be secure and truly happy in a relationship until you learn to be happy and secure alone. I know it hurts to be lonely but a relationship isn't the answer. Wanting a relationship because you're lonely or because you think that is the next step in life will leave you empty, leave you smothering and needy. Women can sense that and healthy women avoid that. Being lonely can certainly suck the life out of you but if youstart focusing inward and start having a relationship with yourself where you enjoy your that will radiate outward. And when you approach women with no motivation but enjoying their company she'll pop up and things will evolve as they should. Anyway I'm sure that's the last thing you wanted to hear but I've a little experience at both situations and allowed a lot of bs in the name of not being lonely.0