I've been seeing someone for a month and a half and he's been consistently pursuing me until recently. I really like him and have stopped dating anyone else at this point.
Last week, he started pulling away. He still responds to every call or text I send, but he doesn't initiate and has stopped being flirtatious in his texts.
I asked him the other night about what's going on as far as this recent distance. He said he's just been busy and enjoys being silent from time to time.
We ended up talking the next night for a few hours. I didn't get any clear answers about where he sees things heading, but he said if we were to be partners, he would need to go into this head space regularly and that lately he's just in a mental and emotional resting state (he described it as feeling "bla"). He calls it his man time. That being said, he's a caring, open, honest, loyal person from what I can tell. He's worth the occasional distance, and I see some benefit for me during this time--so I can take my woman time for myself too.
I don't know if this "man time" is going to turn into him choosing not to pursue our relationship any further and I want to be able to respect that too. . . or he may just take his time and come back full circle--which is what I suspect/hope will happen.
My problem is that I keep finding myself at peace with this whole situation for a while, but then finding excuses within that to reach out to him in between. I'm not asking him for anything or pushing him or getting him to explain himself in any way, but I'll message him with a thought I want to share or just to see how he's doing. . .
I'm wondering how any girls out there stay strong and deal with man time without panicking and pushing him further away unnecessarily . . . and how any guys out there feel about these periods of time.
Girls/guys, what experience have you had with this "man time", how have girls reacted to it and how did that make you (guys) feel in return?
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"I don't know if this "man time" is going to turn into him choosing not to pursue our relationship any further "
A common fear with women, especially if they have abandonment issues. It almost never ever happens this way. 99.999% of the time, he gets done with man-time, and wants us-time again.
In my experience, when a guy finds a girl who doesn't judge him for his need for man-time, or try to change it or prematurely shorten it, he's more likely to think "This is a girl I could be with, long-term".0