I met a guy in January by tinder app. We went on one date and we hit it off really well so we ended up going on total 5 dates.
Unfortunatly he didn't live in my town and came only for buisness, but we developed feelings, he told me he liked me and how it sucks that we can't spend so much time together.
He began withdrawing right after our last date and he didn't talk to me for weeks until i had the guts to ask him why, He told me he didn't have time for a relationship at the moment because he had a lot of things going on.
So since April i jus didn't talk to him, we remained friends but no contact.
Until Monday he contacted me and said he has moved to my town and we are almost neighbors. I asked him oh where did he move and he said right next to me and asked me out , if i wanted to meet him one day for a coffe or something.
I told him im going away next week but we can go for a walk by the lake here if he wanted to.
He said yes and we met yesterday. It was so much fun we did a lot of fun things and walked really far away and just had a blast. On our way home he told me to never hesitate with contacting him , whenever i want to hang out or if i am bored. He also said you should come and check out my place, have some coffe one day.
I went home and i wrote him and just joked about how i scratched my foot and he was like well now you can look at the scar and be reminded of our fun day together etc.
I told him it was nice to see you, i had fun, maybe we can hang out again when im back.
He replied with saying yes, we can :) it was fun:p
So now that he is back i want to begin by going slowly and dont be much and naggy.
Was it a desperate act of me to say it was nice to see you i had fun? I guess i expected him to say the same thing.. but guys and girls from this what is your outlook on my situation?
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From what you've said I think you've done nothing wrong and your reaction was perfectly fine and justified.
From his actions, the with drawal after returning home after the business trip, I think it was the right thing to do seeing as the likelihood of a long distance relationship tends to and often does deteriorate, so don't hold that one against him, it was the right to do.
I think this is a great thing you got going and if you two are happy thats all that matters. From his actions after the business trip (the withdrawal) and seeing as how he contacted you when he moved closer, I think his intentions are sincere and he is a good bloke. That being said, always be careful, you can never be too sure.
Best of wishes and I hope it works out for the best, for you two :)1
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