So, there's this guy at uni who I really like. He is very smart, quiet and funny. He doesn't have many friends, he's always reading a book when I see him. He's sort of shy, so I made an effort to talk to him and we seem to have a lot in common including the same sense of humour. He's more outgoing when you get to know him.
Anyway, on Thursday I asked him out on a date, he was looking down when I asked him, and he said:
Him: "I don't think that's a good idea."
Me: "What are you too good for me? [jokingly]"
He then looked me directly in the eyes
Him: "The opposite. You don't want to be with me. You're happy, optimistic and exuberant. I am... not. Trust me, you don't wan't to be with me.
Then he put money on the table to pay for our coffee's and said "I'll talk to you tomorrow."
I mean, what do I do? How do I get him to go out with me?
Advice is much appreciated
- Ask again - insistVote A
- Flirt with him moreVote B
- Just leave it aloneVote C
- OtherVote D
Most Helpful Guy
Only insist if you're ready to involve yourself with a guy that's full of issues, that has too low self-esteem to approach you, talk to you on his own or ask you out himself. That is NOT a person that can support you in a relationship. It sounds everything like a guy who will abandon you at every turn because he can't separate himself from the idea that he's the problem and that you're better off without him. It's bad news and it would be a lot of work for you to build up his esteem enough for him to actually be a good boyfriend to you, but hey it's your choice. I say leave it alone. If he doesn't come to you himself, he just isn't a man enough to be able to be a boyfriend.0