Once you have sex with a person that you're dating or talking to does it change things? Will the guy start acting different? And why?
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I don't know, what do you think?
Do you think once you invite someone to sleep over your house for the night, it changes things? What if they borrow money from you and pay you back? What if you start living together? What if you start splitting expenses? What if you share a joint checking account? What if you get hurt and have to take off work for 1-2 months and stay home to recover, and they're right there next to you, helping you out? What if you're going through a hard emotional time because you have $2,000 a month payments to make on your student loans but are without a job for the 6th month in a row and thinking about killing yourself, and you confide in them, and they listen to your problems and issues for 2-3 months, really taking the time to understand you and helping you not kill yourself and get out of depression? Does that change things?
I forget where I read this from, but some therapist recently said, "People in America feel more comfortable sharing their deepest sexual desires and interests with strangers, but are more terrified of the idea that strangers know less intimate details about them, such as their annual income, or net worth, or objective indicators of their social status and ranking in our society."
With that said, it's a bit ironic, but "sex" is actually the "stepping stone" for a genuine relationship beyond a mere friendship. Think about it - a relationship is built on trust. You're "closer" and "more connected" to someone, the more you feel that you can trust them, and feel "safe" opening up and "being yourself" with them "knowing" and feeling "secure" in that this person will not "judge you" and will "accept you for who you are completely." That's why, when people that are close to us die, lawyers sue for "loss of society."
If you don't feel comfortable enough to be your sexual self with someone, then how on earth can you feel comfortable enough to really let someone in on the more personal aspects of who you are?0