This is the first post I've made but I'm curious to know from another's point of view.
Dating has not been a big thing for me at all. Even when I thought about it, never really acted on it. So it was flattering when a guy who I've known for a time asked me out on a date. Since I haven't been on a date at all (I'm 24), I stepped out of my zone to take a leap. No way am I even in the ballpark of being a date expert. I feel both dates went smooth. We had a blast with going out both times. We had good conversations, quite a bit of laughs through the night and enjoying each others company. We even made future plans to do something for next time. Almost two weeks pass by and I haven't received a call or text. I'm thinking I said or did something wrong but I usually tend to overthink situations. I don't want to seem like I'm so desperate to go out again so I've decided to move forward with life.
What would make you not want to go past date two? If something similar has happened to you, how did you handle it?
We realize we're better off friends which works. Something's don't pan out but it was a learning experience. Moving on with life by finishing school and keep all options open!
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First of all, good for you for stepping out of your comfort zone and going! It took some time for me to get comfortable with the "typical date" type situation, and lots of people still get very nervous about them. Second of all, even the most experienced of daters feel a sense of rejection when something like this happens. You think everything was great, and then start questioning yourself. The best advice I can give you is not to overthink it or beat yourself up. It could have been any number of things that you could not have controlled.
For example, I took a leap and went out with a guy I met online for the first time. Long story short, we had what I thought was a great time, kiss at the end of the date, a text when I got home saying he had a great time, etc. etc. He continued to text me for maybe 2 weeks after that date, but never asked me out again.
For a while I was super confused about what happened and how I must've messed it up. I felt maybe he was continuing to talk to me to "be nice" since we'd talked for maybe a month prior to meeting. Anyway, I found out later he's just very inexperienced with dating (he'd been in a 5 year relationship), and wanted me to be the one to say something. It didn't have anything to do with how I acted, it was on him.
This happens a lot. Sometimes it's something outside of your control. Sometimes it just wasn't a match made in heaven. Either way, take comfort in knowing that he is one guy in a sea of other guys who would have wanted that 3rd date. It's never easy dealing with the "unknown" in a sense, but it'll get much easier the more you date, I promise. You'll learn more about your likes and dislikes, you'll become more comfortable, and you'll brush off the experiences that didn't work out so great. It's not always personal.1