One of the things I am doing this year is not beating around the bush and become acquaintances at best with girls first before asking them out. If there's a girl I like that is in one of my classes or activities, within a few days I ask her out. The first girl I asked out was a girl in my math class. She had a boyfriend. Thing is that we had a little bit of group work so I got a bit of a chance to slightly interact with her for a couple days first before asking her out.
With the second girl I asked out, I pretty much just went up to her and asked. I went up to her, asked her how it's going and then right away told her that I noticed her and thought she was pretty so I was wondering if she wanted to go get ice cream sometime. She ignored me, called her friend, and caught up to her. Okay... I have no issues with that. I just laughed it off. I have no problems with handling rejection (unless it's a long-term crush - even then, at worst a couple days of slight unhappiness ensue).
While I can handle rejection very well, I still want to ensure that my approaches aren't coming off as creepy. Thing is with the last girl, I didn't know what else to do. She sits at the opposite side of the classroom. Time is extremely limited between classes - I mean that's basically all you get time for - a little bit of small talk, if you want to get to class on time. Beating around the push trying to chat her up bit by bit between classes never worked for me and I"d rather be getting to know her on a first date where we can actually talk in peace.
However, I am worried that approach came off as creepy and she thought that I just want sex from her (not true at all - I want a relationship). Ideally, you would make a little more conversation first, but like I said... time is a bitch...
Maybe if I added in "get to know" her somewhere in my asking out, it would come across better?
What do you think?
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if you keep doing it you'll eventually find a girl that will say yes. what you're doing is a numbers game. no technique in doing it just keep going lol. so in a way its not really creepy but you can add some stuff to lighten it up to improve success rate.1