There's a guy that I am physically attracted to but he has a girlfriend. I'm not that type of woman to break up anyone's relationship so I try to avoid him. But it's really hard not to look at him every time I see him. He's added me on instagram and liked some pics. Then he deleted his instagram. I added him on facebook. We haven't really had a conversation just hi and how are you... How can I stop being physically attracted to him?
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You can't stop being physically attracted to someone you just have to learn to look at it differently. Just because you desire something doesn't mean you need to have it or that you should go get it. Imagine seeing a block of solid gold on a rock in a volcano. you look at it and think I want that gold but you don't go after it because it's dangerous and you'll get burned. So you walk away sad until you forget about it. Now think of seeing that same piece of gold in an old poor sickly ladies house you could easily walk in and take it from her but you probably won't. You want the gold but you didn't go after it and everything was okay afterwards. Now for some reason if we put that gold out in a safe unattended field with a sign that says free gold people feel like they need to grab it. They can't possible let that gold just sit there. I mean it's free gold and it's so easy to go grab. But why's this gold any different? You've walked away from the gold two times before and felt perfectly fine about it later but because this gold is free and easy you suddenly can't control yourself. You didn't need the gold anymore than you did before and that gold could have been given to someone who truly needed it. You can you just choose not to. What I'm saying is look at the guy enjoy the guy but know you don't have to go after him and you won't feel bad (unless you make yourself feel bad) about letting him go. Nothing bad will happen if you don't go after him despite what your brain is telling you. I do it with about 90% of the girls I meet. It gets real easy after a while.0