I'm not the cool guy type. I don't follow trends, or listen to popular music. I dress well, and take good care of myself. I have many hobbies, and many qualities that people enjoy, such as being a good cook, a musician, a former Army soldier, and a film school student. My initial appearance isn't flashy or eye catching. I have many girlfriends who are married, that seem to love my personality and character, perhaps even more than their own husbands. What do I have to do to gain a pretty girl's attention, without becoming someone I am not? Is there such a thing as living in the wrong area for the type of person I'd like to meet? I have the worst luck with ladies, but the ladies who are off limits, seem to love me. Even if I have similar interests as the girl, I still can't get any points over the jerks they'd rather date.
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First off, surround yourself with women who aren't married. Sure it might be an ego booster to have their interests, but that's as far as it goes with them. And if one lets it go any farther, than you'll both be in a messy situation. Plus, married women usually have married friends, so that's not going to help you.
Sounds like meeting girls through school might be your easiest option. Also, find your funny side. Girls like eye candy, but humor usually works just as well. A guy can be a total nerd or even a total jerk, but if he's funny, he can usually win her heart.1