I've been dating this guy for a about 8 months and so far things have been good. We have fun , go out, talk on the phone and all of that cute relationship stuff... so last night something came up in conversation and after one thing lead to another he ended up saying he would never call me fat. I asked him if he would never call me it , would he think it? He didn't even bother answering the question both times I asked. He pretended to be oblivious to what the topic was. Does his silence mean he has thought and won't admit it? Am I just overreacting?
Most Helpful Guy
To me this sounds like you've set him up for a "pest or cholera" question, a situation were no matter what he answers he will loose. It's like those girls asking "which of my friends would you invite into a threesome" and when he answers that he only wants her she follows up with "but if you had to pick one?"
Girls, let me tell what you gain on this! 1. a reason to be mad at him (admit it, there's no way he can not make you mad, seeing as you try to force him to admit he'd fuck one of your friends if he had to). 2. An annoyed boyfriend.
Trying to manipulate our toughts or trick us like that srves no good. IN your case it's like you're trying to fish for attention, and silence him from speaking up aginst something that can be a serious problem (overweight).
With questions like that you are litterally putting them in an imaginary loose loose situation! To return to the threesome example; if he really was loyal enough to only want you, why the hell would you force him into a threesome?
I'm sorry if i sound mad, but i feel like i'm speaking on behalf on most men when i ask you girls to stop doing that. You're achieving nothing, and only run the risk of fucking up.
As for why he didn't answer. He had two options; 1. Tell the truth and admit he could speak up if you end up overweight, thus giving you a reason to call him selfish and sexist for going after body (what if he just cares about your health?). 2. Lie either to you or himself, and then be forced to, if you ever become overweight, either ignore what's a medical risk or lie to himself by pretending you're not overweight.0
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Most Helpful Girl
Hard one.. i would feel weird if he didn't answer too but you did put him in a very horrible position. How would you have felt if he said yes.!1