My bf of 4 months and I were joking around and he said "I love you, but Im going to throw you over the balcony." I know its too early to say I love you, that was the first he said it. i got all excited and he said he didn't mean it that way. He likes me A LOT but not love, that takes time. He will tell me when he loves me.
It was good to clarify that bc I've been under the impression he loved me but was too shy to say it. Once whem I asked him if he felt anything emotionally during sex he said no, but later admitted it makes him feel safe and secure with me. I know he's a thinket and not one to express much emotion so thought this was that too.
Also, he's been much more into me and our rs lately. He introduced me to all his friends and siblings, he met my parents, he helped me move homes, find a new job, buys me surprise gifts all the time, called me pretty after 4 months of dating before it was always cute! He even told me im unique and there is no one else like me. He constantly wants to hang out, and I've spent all weeknights at his place last week. When he went out of town he said it may sound lame and girlish but he was going to miss me and would call. He even left me a shirt of his while he left bc I love his scent! Are these things a man would do if he is NOT in love? All my friends get guys that fall in love with them after 3 months, but. it seems hr may take awhile. What gives?
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Since you mentioned that he is a "thinker" I believe he is really contemplating a long/life future and just needs to reinforce the idea himself. As a reserved guy who thinks more than I speak (and I talk a lot), I can see that he is pretty serious and may even be weighing out potential concerns down the line or maybe think about things he doesn't like that you may do but likes you so much he tries to reason things out in his thoughts. Do you two talk about your dislikes or pet peeves of each other?0