I was out the other night and saw my best friends husband at a bar with another woman. They were sitting in a corner making out! He didn't see me. I've always suspected he was cheating but now it's confirmed. Should I tell my friend? Or maybe just drop hints? They have 2 small kids, fyi..
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This is very difficult because couples almost always shoot the messenger. You could say 'I know this is not going to make me popular, but I saw your husband in the pub the other night and he was not alone or being discreet. Don't take sides or criticize the husband. Just say what you saw. Not one word of judgement.
That should be enough. Then make yourself scarce.
The worst thing would be to tell someone else and start rumor because that undermines everybody and if they want to try and fix it, after rumors it is almost impossible. So you only tell the wife, nobody else. Then say no more and step away.2