Coming from a guy's perspective... everywhere I go, I always see women complaining about how they cannot find a good at all. That, or they complain about their ex or current boyfriend.
Ladies - You go to bars/clubs, meet a guy and expect him to be boyfriend material. You choose that loud, obnoxious guy that "appears" confident and you are always left disappointed.
Ladies... It's not that hard to find a good guy. The guy you have just friend zoned, he was probably a good guy. This is how you can tell a good guy... and these are the most type of men that are overlooked.
Is he shy? Shy guys always make good partners in my opinion. They are too nervous to talk to other women, are less likely to cheat on you and are sensitive to your feelings.
Meet a guy at the bookstore (also known as the bookstore guy). These are the type of men you want. They are intellectual, enjoy mental stimulation and are the types to stay inside and read a good book instead of partying every night.
(The fashionable guy) No. These guys aren't gay or metrosexuals! Guys who are fashionable care about their looks. That means they care about how they present themselves and the physical impression they make when they meet people. Because they are about the impression they leave on people, that means they must care about their success.
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You actually have a point and I completely understand what you are talking about. I know plenty of girls who do it as well.
HOWEVER, I don't appreciate it when self-proclaimed nice guys think that by acting "nice" they can convince a woman to sleep with them. Being "nice" shouldn't be an attribute that people desperately use in order to get laid. That's the definition of a douchebag.
Being "nice" doesn't mean that you should sit on your ass while the girl is putting effort in getting to know you or she is expected to do the first move.
Remember that men who are genuinely nice, are nice towards everyone (children, men, women, old people etc) NOT ONLY TOWARDS pretty women. You should also remember that being a decent human being is only ONE characteristic. People usually seek for other things too in potential partners.
Personally speaking, I go for the good guys. My boyfriend was my best friend for a pretty long time and he is nice towards everyone.0