I have never dated much less talk to a guy for real. I am also very and I mean VERY shy, and antisocial. I hate dealing with people but at the same time I'm way too nice to them and care to much about what they think. I'm great when I'm with my friends and family but other than I freak out about every little thing, so yeah I'm a bit OCD too. Ok, background check over. Here's what happened. Like most girls I wanted to find that special someone and live happily ever after so I went on some dating sites but quickly felt that wasn't the thing for me and got out but in between that time I became friends with this guy and he sent me a friend request on facebook. We've been talking since march of this year. I really didn't think much of him at first and I didn't really think he was my type but he's a really nice guy and I enjoy talking to him. He's two years older than me and lives 20 hours away so I feel courage knowing I can turn off my laptop at anytime. And yes I have done so much recon on him I could be considered I stalker. I'm not, just very cautious. So What's The Problem? I'm Freaking OUT!!! I never thought I'd actually like him or that is would get this far. And by get this far I mean I think we're in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship or close, at one point I wanted him to draw me a map of where this conversation was going. I know that's probably not even the starting gate to some of you but to me its major. Somehow we just started flirting online and I'm not used to being complemented or having someone interested in me that way so maybe I just got over excited and went with it, at the same time I'm stressing out over what I should say next or is it really this easy. It was easy to get caught up in the flow of thing because we have so much in common and he is so nice, sometimes I just want him to stop. It's like I'm looking for something tobe wrong with him or I want to have a disagreement/argument with him. The whole relationship thing just stresses me out!
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The answer to the direct question 'Am I freaking out too much over this?' is yes.
Do you have reason to? Normally I would say no, but if you have never dated then any kind of initial dating stuff can be overwhelming. You are going to get all sorts of feeling you haven't felt before, and then remember all those 'lessons and warnings', and get conflicted, and not know what to do, and not know if you should trust yourself, and think that you should know yourself best so you probably should trust yourself and and and... I am sure you are becoming aware yourself.
Firstly, never let yourself get too worked up over someone you haven't met in person. It is way too easy to project a persona online. Secondly, it is easy to be very nice when you don't have anything to get upset over, and that is doubly true as a 'long distance' online relationship. Thirdly... relax a little. You WILL get emotionally hurt at some point during your dating life. It is inevitable. But don't fear it. Don't let the fear of it stop you from experiencing all of the joys that dating will bring as well. You have to be vulnerable enough to be hurt to really be in a position to experience the eventual growth of love.
So, never meet someone from the internet in a place that is not Wow So Public. But don't be afraid of this guy. Meet him in person at some point and see if it's worth it. Let yourself feel the butterflies. Be cautious, sure, be safe, obviously, but let yourself feel. Explore the idea.0
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