Has anyone else been so in love that they don't know what to do with themselves? I'm suffering (although it's a good kind of suffering XD) from this myself right now. I have a HUGE crush on this guy like he is my everything, i literally understand the meaning of 'can't stop thinking about you' now. He's my teacher though, so it's not like i can ask him out or anything. I was just wondering what y'all do when you are just fangirling and squealing at pictures of him all day and all night long! I keep doing this! I just don't know what to do with myself. I feel miserable, yet I love the feeling of it <3
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I was just having a long discussion about this today, interestingly enough, about how the English language really, really sucks at differentiating the different feelings that are all classified as 'love' in English. By the time you get to your mid 20s, probably quite a bit before that, you will understand a different kind of love, and realize that what you are actually feeling right now is not love, but infatuation. It is super common amongst teen girls. Some teen boys too, but not as many for some reason.
The 'fangirl squealing', 'thinking of nothing else', staring at pictures... they are all elements of infatuation. What you see on TV and in movies, what they call 'falling in love' is usually just an infatuation - people meet and have a strong immediate physical attraction. There isn't such a thing, really, as love at first sight. It is infatuation at first sight, and it eventually can grow into a mature love, but most times it does not.
Crush and infatuation are generally synonyms. When someone has a crush on someone, it is almost always, in every case, infatuation. Love is something that grows slowly, over time. It is about more than physical attraction, it is about acceptance of a persons flaws, acceptance of them as a person, and about caring for what it is in their best interests, not yours. Crushes, or infatuations, happen fast. They come on like a train, and just overpower you wit emotion right away. When infatuated, the person will usually gloss over or ignore arguments to the contrary. Infatuation is about the feelings YOU feel, not the other person. The target can be just about anyone, and can be someone you don't even know personally, which is why so many girls fall 'in love' with singers, actors, people in the public eye, figures in authority - people they do not even interact with in a meaningful enough way to actually 'love'.
You cannot love him in the 'real' sense of the word because you don't even know him, even if it feels like it.0