I was seeing a guy for about a month and a half.
We met on tinder, an app that is known for casual hookups. I was not looking for a hookup and I told him that the day we began talking. He knew I wanted a long term boyfriend.
I didn't trust him because he was on the app and it was online so naturally I was cautious and I made him wait about a week before he could have my number. He was messaging me and asking me sincere questions and seemed like a guy who wanted to get to know me.
He texted me all day and night and when we met up he was still normal. Cute and not touchy at all. Seemed really interested and attracted.
Came on really strong in the beginning and said he wanted a relationship and all this cute stuff (I'm aware it was bull now) but when he said it he seemed to mean it.
I saw him just about every day for a month and we would be constantly calling and texting each other. He seemed really Into me.
The red flags came up towards the end, a few being him not wanting to commit at the moment and him getting touchy and pushing my boundaries and not respecting that I didn't want to go far with him physically.
He gave me a ton of mixed signals at the end, saying I was great and he wanted to date but not now. Just seemed like bullshit to me.
He seemed really attracted to me, I could tell. He just seemed to genuinely love my looks from what he said and how he looked at and touched me. Constant compliments and he got off really easily, that was obvious.
Is it normal for a guy to invest so much time in deceiving a girl like this? I think a month and a half of constant contact is a LOT of time to devote to a hookup, when he knew I wouldn't put out from day one.
Did he just find me to be really sexy and is that why he put in that kind of time?
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You may not like to hear this, and he's DEFINITELY in the wrong for it, but it sounds like, to me, that he lost interest due to lack of sex. Any guy who tells you sex isn't a HUGE part of relationships to them (unless they happen to be asexual) is MOST LIKELY lying to you.
You may not like, and it may not be right, but the sexual side of a relationship is extremely important to most guys, and it sounds like you were holding off on going all the way. So, while he may have been interested in you, he may have perceived the lack of... "sexual forthcoming" from you as a lack of interest on your part, and lost hope. Don't take this to mean in ANYWAY that you are in the wrong! Don't give it up just because some one wants it. Give it up when YOU are ready and comfortable, and if a guy can't handle that, then maybe he just wasn't right for you.0
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