So... There's this guy I have been friends with for about a year now. When we talk, he generally asks questions, including about deep stuff, and I answer him. But he never seems to share his own emotions, except by sometimes saying things like, "we all feel like that sometimes" or "we all go through stages like that". He will share his experiences though and if I ask how his day/weekend was, he'll give an honest answer without much detail like "pretty good", "could have been better" or "meh, I'm glad it's over".
He normally seems pleasantly surprised to see me... He lives in a house with a few of my other friends, so I might go over there when he doesn't realise I'll be coming, and he'll say in a higher pitched voice, "oh! Hello. What'd you come over for?" and I'll respond, "I came to see [friend's name]" and then his voice will go back down to normal and he'll say, "oh, cool". Which makes me wonder if he was hoping I'd come to see him or if he was merely surprised that I turned up randomly. I don't know if I'm reading into things too much.
He tends to remember things that I've said... Even months and months ago... But I'm not sure if he remembered me saying them to him, or if his housemates (my friends) discuss me when I'm not there so that he hears stuff about me a few times which would make it easier to remember...
He doesn't make any physical contact with me (or any other girl) at all... Wouldn't he touch me if he was interested in me?
He is always willing to offer to do favours for me (I don't ask him for favours in particular, I might just ask one of my good friends, and he'll be standing nearby and offer to help)... I don't know if he's just being nice, because he is generally nice to everyone, not just to me...
Am I in the friend zone? Is he just a nice guy? Does he like me? I'm scared to ask him out in case he doesn't like me and I ruin the friendship... What do I do?
Most Helpful Girl
this is painful. just ask him out already.
if he days no great you can get on with your life and stop playing 20- questions on your head. if he says yes even better you guys get to go out.
anything is better than his.
if you can write an essay about how he might feel you can take two seconds to ask him out. if thats 'too much' for him he's not interested in you and he's using you asking him out as an excuse. if someone genuinely likes you they'll be over the moon you just did the hard work. and removed ambiguity.2
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