I have a bf of 1 yr and I'm still 3-4 years from when I want to be married by. Recently I started having thoughts that it won't be the end if the world if I did not marry my current bf. he's definitely a great guy and I love him and this is a recent thought. Id love it if our relationship did lea to marrige but I'm now less fixated on that than before meaning I have become less concerned about that recently. I hope this isn't an unconscious sign that he's not "the one" if you know what I mean. Is this what healthy relationships feel like or am I just lukewarm and unconsciously think or know I won't marry him? Any thoughts?
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I can only talk about myself, but I met my bf when we were 22, and early on we talked about getting married at age 28 and having kids etc. So for me it was always clear he is the one (I guess that's why we are with them).
However, turning 27, I suddenly started having doubts. When he turned 28 half a year before me, he said he wants to have kids now, and I freaked out.
This really made me think and showed me there is a red flag. I could not imagine marrying him anymore.
Do you think he is not the one, or do you just think marrying is not just such a big deal?
If you imagine your "wedding day", do you necessarily see yourself with him? Or is it more about the day itself? Can you imagine standing at the altar with him and saying yes, when looking into his eyes?
I realised at age 28, my bf could be replaced with a lot of guys I fancied, so it was not meant to be.
Perhaps, in your case, it all still seems far away, if you anyways have a great relationship, I would not through it away because of some distant thought in the probable future. Perhaps your level of infatuation has just vanished and therefore the romantic feeling of a wedding day becomes less glamorous.0