I would think that players would get bored pretty easily if they know they aren't getting any sex early on.
The player I dealt with knew I would not hook up with him because I told him so. I told him that the day I began to talk to him because we met online and I didn't want him wasting my time if he just wanted casual sex.
He acted like he didn't want sex from me in terms of what he said- he fed me all the cute little lines- but his actions did not match at all towards the end.
He was too touchy and pushy for physical stuff. He was sly about it and barely touched me early on and that made me trust him, and when he saw I was beginning to trust him he seemed to want to get much more physical, and very quickly.
He was constantly pushing me to go further and kind of conditioning me to be okay with his touching.
He was dying to sleep with me, that I am certain of. It was obvious in how worked up he would get.
This guy was basically talking to me and spending enough time with me to suggest we were a couple. I was spending around two hours or so daily with him for a month, in addition to calls and all that.
He had two jobs and would commute from an hour and a half away.
He seemed to be putting a LOT of work in here. I found out the cute things he said were lies at the end so he was clearly just trying to get me to trust him.
This is not a guy that lost interest due to lack of sex, I'm certain he is a lying douche.
I'm trying to find a silver lining, so I'm just wondering if I can Take it as a compliment that he found me very attractive and kind of "worth his effort" for that long.
Or did he just think he could manipulate me? He knew that I was very inexperienced so I'm sure he thought he could take advantage of me.
I know he is active on apps like Tinder that get people sex really easily and I'm sure girls would easily put out on there. So I'm just wondering why he would spend so much time in deceiving me.
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Unfortunately a player can work two months on a project if they think the payoff will be there and they have some patience. And their patience can be enhanced by either having another outlet to take the pressure off or simply having nothing else in the works at the time to move on to. A player with nobody else to switch to could theoretically just keep going indefinitely, until they got bored. If there isn't anything else to work on, why not? They generally lack the empathy to feel anything from the girls point of view, so they don't worry about how that will mess them up emotionally. Then all the nice, normal guys have to pick up the pieces of trust that are shattered and laying all over the backseat.
Sorry it went down like that, seems he was working it from the start. A guy laughing while feeling you up, when you are not comfortable with it, is a huge, huge red flag, for future reference. If you express displeasure, he should be genuinely apologetic, not amused at your discomfort.
Look for a lack of empathy, that's a really good indicator. Some players will be able to fake it, but to be a player, to be able to screw with somebodies emotions like that, they simply can't have the empathy needed to feel what their 'victim' feels.0
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