I am a beautiful educated, independent, women and it seems like I am looked over by men because I am not the the body type like the girls on TV. I am not obese but I do not have the tiny waist and big butt that I guess most men that live in my area are attracted to. I am not flat and I have a beautiful face, a great personality, a big heart, and on a physical note I am busty with great legs. Why does it seem that only the girls who look like the video girls on TV are considered the standard for what is or is not beautiful?
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Well it's probably just you're train of thought. I could make the same excuse as I'm flat chested. But I find some guys who look at me and even check out my small breasts (say what? some guys actually like A cups? I guess so yea lol)
Basically, guys aren't some puppets that only go for one body type. They love all types of women. Just like women have different tastes, men like different things. Some are chubby chasers, some only like big boobs, some only like big butts, some like long thin legs, some like tall girls, some like fair/light skin. If I fret about all the guys who told me I was too short, too skinny, my legs are too short, my breasts are too small, my skin is too dark, etc. If I focused on them, I wouldn't notice all the guys who like petite women, who actually like small breasts, who like short girls, who like tan skin, etc. And most importantly, I wouldn't notice what I actually think of myself.
Think about. There's "ugly" people who can get into relationships. Someone had sex with Honey Boo Boo's mother. Those "Walmartians/People of Walmart" have a bunch of kids, and some of those people, it's basically shocking because they're not all that attractive and have a nasty attitude. So I think it's all in your head. Just have a little confidence in yourself. And ignore those who don't like you for who you are. As cliche as this sounds, you can't love others until you love yourself. It's true. I'm still working on those myself, so I don't blame you. But at one point we're gonna have to be realistic and see that maybe it's just all in our heads. We are our own worst enemies.1