I've never been in a relationship before and I have no idea how I'm suppose to act. I've been seeing this guy for a few weeks now an he's absolutely perfect! While I was inboxing him on Facebook I received an inbox from a guy asking me out. I rejected him and told my boyfriend about it. My boyfriend was asking me for screenshot because I was complaining about how cheesy the other guy was. I asked my boyfriend to save me from him and he playfully told me to save myself. Since we we're playing around I thought it would be a smart idea to tell him that if he won't save me I'll start to flirt with the other guy. We continued to playfully text each other but then I made the mistake by saying that I'll ditch him for the other guy. I was joking but now when I look back on it I regret it. My boyfriend took it seriously and he was extremely upset. Even though I think he's amazing he is very insecure and I should know that more then most people. He confronted me and explained that what I said hurt his feeling an that he is extremely upset. When I told him it was a joke he said that he 'fucking hates me right now. 😔
I've never been good at expressing my feelings or telling people how I feel. I have no idea how to make it up to him! He isn't even talking to me. Can someone please help me?
To make it worse he did save me. He messaged the other guy and told him to back off.
Most Helpful Guy
People are going to accidentally cross a line and hurt the person they are dating once in a while. Guys have our insecurities, just like women do. He has a right to be upset about this, but how he decides to handle it will determine what kind of man he is. Something this small shouldn't destroy the relationship, but you are young, so your boyfriend my not be mature enough to handle even something this tiny. It isn't a reason to hate you, he is just over reacting.
Other than just talking to him and asking him to forgive you, there isn't much you can do. He might just need a little time to get over it.2
Most Helpful Girl
Being that you're a Newbie to the Relationship Reality world, sweetie, learn by this valuable lesson in love: To save your 'Act', your current love life that you are just getting to know, Don't Kiss your cutie in one instant then-----Tell him about ditching him for another, even if it is to call his bullheaded bluff.
The bottom line is... Let sleeping dogs lie, no need to stir them.. This means in lamen's terms Keep certain things to yourself with a Current, for it can cause toil and trouble and stir up a bees next, where he starts to put his stinger in your Bees wax, as you see-------He messaged the other guy and told him to back off.
This will 'Save' the day and what he doesn't know, won't hurt him.
Have a long talk with him when he is over his hissy fit. If he really cares about you, which I am sure he More than does, he will let bygones be bygones.
However, one can go overboard with the 'Jealousy' jargon, and if you see that it is a big problem in the future, then have second thoughts of sticking around and always having to be in the doghouse with him.
Good luck. xx1