I've meet this guy through a dating app. We went on 4 dates and he made me feel like we are in a relationship. We hold hands in public, we kiss, but thank god, we still have not had sex. I felt like I was in love and he made me felt like I was wanted and loved. He's been ignoring my messages when he clearly have saw it. Recently, I felt that his attitude has change towards me. I found out that he was flirting and seeing another girl. I understand that since we are not in a relationship, you can date other girls. But he made me felt like a relationship. I decided to send him a message saying I don't want to have anything to do with you again. He sent me multiple text messages and I still ignored him. He called me and we had a conversation about what's going on in my mind. He told me I don't want to lose you just like that and you are not my option. I care about you. I asked him about the other girl and he admitted it. He confronted me about all those lies he made. Then he said he wants to keep talking and hanging out with me. He wants to be in a relationship with me however, he doesn't know where to start.
I told him exactly how I felt and that i felt betrayed and cheated. I felt your full of lies. I see you all the time on your messenger and you don't reply my messages. He said he never ignored me but obviously he did. He told me not to have high expectations from him which made me really sad to hear that. I told him that I had a bad past and don't hurt me. I'm trying to protect myself. If your nice enough to please let me go. He told me that he knows i'm a girl who needs to be treated right. But he's been keeping me in this grey zone (not a relationship but just like a relationship).
I am so devastated and upset because seems like he's playing me and plus he's talking to some other girl. But then, when I ignore him, he would chase me back and then ignore again! HELP!!! What does he want?
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I'm gonna be honest with you girl and I hope you'll humbly recieve it with an open mind.
While I can see why you feel how you feel and in no way am I dismissing your feelings, he technically had no obligation or duty to be loyal to you. Unfortunately in a society were promiscuity is encouraged, this comes along with it: you can date as many people as you want and it's okay as long as you're not official. This is an attitude that many people adopt and the only thing you can do is repsond to it by limiting what you give of yourself unless things are official, not just sexually but mentally and emotionally. Save a piece of yourself that only gets activated for a BOYFRIEND and commit to the decision that any other guy only gets to experience so much of you and what you have to give. This is the best way to avoid heartache in a situation like yours.
Btw, he's shady and your life is better off without him and his childish, low self-esteem having games. Dispose of him A. S. A. P.2
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