So I have been seeing this guy for about six weeks now!! And it WAS perfect. We had the talk where we agreed we aren't a couple, but that we liked each other, and have had sex. BUT we also agreed that if we met other people we would tell each other... which if he did that, I'd still want to see him because I do, but it would affect the way I thought about him. (if that makes sense). We also agreed we'd tell each other if we just wanted to be friends, or if he felt he was too busy.
He's a very busy student, doing a rotation and under some insane pressure and that is real, and legit. However, last weekend, he ignored a call on Saturday night from me. Which I thought of as just he's studying, and didn't think much of it. But on Sunday, I saw a bunch of pictures on Facebook (on my news feed, so I didn't creep on him per say) of him, and this group of new friends, celebrating a girl he just met's birthday. I texted him again and was like "So how was your weekend, sitll just busy?" and he's like "ya sweetie, I am so sorry, we'll get together soon". Maybe, he thought I'd be jealous and maybe she's just a friend. But I gave him 100 outs telling him if he just wants to be friends that's fine. The next day he sent me flowers to tell me that "hes sorry".
Then all week I've ran into him a few times. and he's been nice, and super sweet, but WAY less talkative.
Look I know that if someone wants to be with you, they will make time. but I feelI am letting him walk all over me, by being so understanding, what do I do?
I don't care that he's busy, if he sent me a 2 line text in a given day, t. That's enough for me. BUT I know not all guys do that. Anyways I REALLY have a great time with him! But I don't want to be strung along, can I ask him? what he really thinks of me? I have other guys that are options, I'd give a chance if it wasn't for him. I just want to know if he really still is into me? what should I do?
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You gave yourself up too soon. When you had sex before anything rock solid was going on, That sent a message to him. That told him you were easy game for not only him, but other guys too. So that's where you lost your appeal.
Let me tell you what gets an old school guy hooked if you are looking for a solid relationship. Take it slow. Don't be in a hurry to give in to sexual desires right off the bat either. Build your bond with time. Friends first without the sex. This way, You get to know what you are dealing with. If he is really into you, He will think that you are well worth the wait. If he is being lead around by his pecker, He's gonna jump ship and string along some other female. That's the reason I tell you this.