I'm 21 and I've never been on a date, kissed a girl, or had a girlfriend. I've never asked a girl out and now I feel like it's pointless to even try because most girls want a guy with experience and expect him to be experienced by this age since she will most likely be experienced. I just wanted to know if I was to try, how much rejection am I in for because of this? I honestly don't see any way out of this situation besides lying about my lack of experience, which is sad but at the same time I don't feel so bad because a lot of girls lie and say that lacking experience isn't a problem when it really is. And to any girls that answer this, Please don't lie and say it's not a problem or something like it's "cute" and "sweet" or the right girl won't care. I can see through those lies and I know that you say that not to make a guy feel bad. But you know what? It hurts more to be rejected by a girl you like for being inexperienced than simply being told online that it's a turn off.
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You want straight up honesty from my opinion? Here it is: Coming from a 20-something virgin whose first boyfriend was 26 when she was 19, all he ever did was brag about all the chicks he's been with and OMG turns out I even knew some of them (girls who warned me too). He claimed I was in the mid-20s when I asked him what # girl I was? He rubbed in my new-to-dating face how inexperienced I was and how I should do EVERYTHING his way because "that's what people do" which pressured me to do things I wasn't ready or comfortable with - yet. Although, I kept my virginity (glad I did). In the end, his "experience" made me nervous and insecure because I felt like I would be compared to the other girls he'd been with and I feared I would fail miserably. So I don't like it when a guy is really experienced.
I do genuinely like a guy who would wait (not for marriage but for the right girl or for at least to be in love). I held on to mine because I want my first time to be with someone i love who loves me and I just didn't feel like I could love a guy like that. Now, before u call me a liar or doubt me, I will admit as a virgin I am afraid that dating another virgin might seem awkward for the two of us in the beginning as we both may not know what to do or get too nervous making it a bad experience. NOT saying I WOULDN'T date a virgin, but if a guy had a LITTLE experience and knew a little more than me (being the virgin I am) then at least he knows what he's doing and can help guide me a little with my first time. Hopefully then I'll learn and it'll be great for the both of us.2