It's been 3 months since we broke up. We fought a lot towards the end of the relationship for reasons I now fully understand and working on fixing. We were a really loving couple and were just so close and I treated her like an Angel. Since the break up she's been drinking and putting out a lot. Getting with any guy that shows the slightest interest and even flirts with her other ex openly. She left our friend group and started hanging with other people that only see her as an object and don't really care about her. She has health problems and she shouldn't be drinking but she does drink a lot and I'm so worried about anything happening to her. I want to fix and bring what we had back because there is no other girl that was as loving, caring, sweet, interesting as her. I don't know how to fix things. She wanted to be single and was sick of the fights so we broke up. I don't know how I should act around her, what should I say to her, how do I get her to fall back in love with me. Last week she asked me not to hook up with her friend or it would hurt her and what I got from that is that she still cares and isn't completely over it. I'm afraid of losing her forever to those d bags that she hangs with now and her other ex that treated her like crap and cheated on her. When I'm around her I keep my cool and act normal but on the inside I have butterflies so I hesitate on so much. Im afraid that if I tell her how I really feel it'll push her away even more and that'll be it. Look this girl was perfect, she was my dream girl and I can't believe I messed up so much. So to recap I want her back l, I don't know what to say to her or how I should act towards her, she's hanging with people that just want to get with her, she drinks a lot which worries me because of her health issues, I may lose her to her other ex. Guys in all seriousness I don't want to push her away anymore. How do I get her to fall back in love with me.
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You know... she does sound really broken.
And if i was ever as broken hearted as she was feeling right now, what i would really want in the whole entire world would be a hug.
I know that sounds crazy. But a hug, like a kiss is sometimes so underated and forgotten. A hug means a lot. For me, if i was going through all this, i want a hug.
Talk to her and give the hug or find her and hug her. What i recommend first is huggingher from behind and saying. "It's me."
She should recognize your voice. Put your arms around her shoulders and whisper into her ear. Hold her like you mean it. Hold her the way she deserves to be treated.
Hold her and SHOW her, you LOVE her. Do this when she is NOT drunk so she can hear and understand completely, everything you're going to say.
Say her name. It may have been a long time since you last calledher name. Say it with love. Say it wit h everything you have, heart and soul. Tell her you are sorry, and say, "please let me say something. I really ne ed to tell you this. And i need you to hear me out, please."
Tell her everything you did wrong. Tell her you're sorry again. Say that you're wrong, that you were wrong to hurt her that way. Tell her everything you said here, how you felt about her. Say how lost you were without her and how you didn't know how much you loved her and how much she meant to you. Say all of th is with meaning and heart. MEAN every word you say.
Say sorry one more time. Ask for forgiveness and say, "i still love you. And i realized it more when we were apart. I miss you and i need you. I'm hurt each time i see you in the arms of those guys who dont know your worth. I want you back in my arms. I want to protect you better than i did before. I want to show you that you deserve more, that you deserve better. So let me love you again please and let me show you how preious you are to me. And that no one should ever take you for granted."0