I used to work with this girl at the grocery store years ago. She still works there, and I see her on occasion.
I sent her a message on Facebook, since we've never really had anything to do with each other, asking her to a church dinner last Valentine's Day. She never replied and I didn't get a read receipt ("Read at XX:XX on Xday.")
She's homeschooled and her older brother is a strong Christian. I think she has the potential to be my type because of that, but I may not be hers. I'm a high school dropout who was... I didn't have much perception of the fact that other people could see the way I acted. I have been a jerk and I have been clingy. I even stalked a girlfriend for a few months back then. I only got my life back on track about a year and a half ago. I'm 21 and I think she's 20.
Should I just drop it? It's hard to approach her now because I feel semi-rejected, adding to my already shy personality. I would rather not come across as a pushy creep to someone who may well want nothing to do with me. I really don't know what kind of reputation I have since I tend to isolate from people in the community when I can do so without risking being rude.
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It really depends have you guys actually spoke to each other on a personal level and not in public? And maybe she didn't read it maybe she just deleted it are you guys actually friends on Facebook or did you message her randomly because I do know the inbox has a filter setting which can basically put all non-friend messages into the 'Other' folder of the Facebook messages which nobody ever gets notifications for or warnings.
So she could of just have never gotten a warning saying you messaged her therefor never read the message. If I were you why not just ask her at work sometime if she's busy later and if not ask if she wants to go for coffee or milkshake the worse that happens is she says no she doesn't want too and if that's the case just move on than. Because if you're actually interested into her you might as well give it a shot to talk to her and ask her to at least have a coffee doesn't have to be a date but just more getting to know each other. If she's not interested into that at all than you know she's just not interested into you and than it's better to move on than be a creeper than and keep trying.
I know your shy and stuff but you might as well give it a shot even just have a conversation with her sometime in public and just say you want to talk some more and ask if she wants to have a coffee than. There's nothing wrong with asking somebody to talk some more and get to know each other. It's not creepy unless you stalked the girl or asked her a bunch of times, just because you asked her once on Facebook doesn't mean anything for all you know she didn't see it.0