So there's this girl that I tried to be in a relationship with. I took her out once and we texted every day for months, we stayed up late, we said things no normal friends would say to each other. She convinced me to go to a concert with her and her friends. We enjoy practically all the same stuff. She is everything I want in a girl and she knows she lead me on when she finally broke the news to me she's now dating some 6'2" (I'm 6'1") football player that she was friends with when she was little. I gave up because I felt so broken, but the day she saw me after that she starts texting me again. I respond because I legitimately really enjoy talking to her. I've asked her multiple times if she thinks we could ever lead to something more and not once have I gotten a straight answer. Regardless of what I say too she keeps texting me, but (and we go to school together) when I asked her why she didn't want to hang at school she says she couldn't handle what my asshole friends and her asshole friends would say because everyone knows something happened between us. When I talk to my guy friends, they say prove myself the better man (whatever that means) and when I talk to my girl friends they say they can tell how much I really like her and they say she must care for me a lot to keep talking, etc but have no clue what to do. Her boyfriend doesn't go to school with us by the way and to me it seems her biggest issue was not knowing me that long because she's only been with people she's known for a long time. She also has a bit of trust issues.
Whats really confusing is she's more of a tomboy than a girly girl and so she has plenty of guy friends so I don't know if I'm just over analyzing things. She's also a bit awkward, as am I.
Whats really troubling is she's told me, trying to comfort me, that she never has and never will love her bf, she's just trying to have fun as her last year being a child.
I guess I'm wondering what you think her intentions are at this point.
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okay! my turn to help you! honestly, she's probably just as confused as you! she liked you y'all hung out and then this other guy asks her out and she's lonely and wants a relationship so she said yes! now she's in this relationship which is going good but she really likes you and would like to be with you but she's afraid that things won't turn out or won't be as good as it is with the other guy and if she gives him up for you and finds out that she should have stayed with him she will never be able to get him back and that freaks her out bc she finally has this good thing going on and she doesn't know what to do with what she has: you wanting to be with her and the other guy obviously being with her! so what you need to do is be perfect! do things that you'd do if you were dating her and just be all around perfect! okay? show her what it'd be like to be with you and try to be better than the other guy! ask her about her day, support her hopes and dreams, protect her but don't overprotect her! just be there for her! maybe even try little things like if she's having a rough day leave her a little note in her locker saying that she's beautiful and no matter what kinda crap she's dealing wiht, you know she will get through it and that you're always there for her! or if she had a bad day the day before, get there first thing and leave a little gift like her fave candy or something and a note! you can even sign them with a pen name! (obviously make sure she's gonna know it's you! haha) this would be a good idea if she's as uncomfortable with people placing you and her together at school! that way, she knows and you know and it can't cause any problems between y'all and ur friends because they have no idea who it is! basically, take a possible relationship (minus the courtship physicality) out for a test drive! i wish you the best! <3 go get her tiger! ;)1
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