I'm in 8th grade. He's cute, but all of my FRIENDS don't like him. He's on the football team and I'm really shy and I don't like making others upset or angry and I don't want to go after a guy that already likes somebody or somebody already likes him. You know? Advice please!!
Most Helpful Guy
Actually asking someone might clue your guy that you are interested in him because, you know, little facts like that get around, so you must make your own decision and draw your own conclusions about that. You might know the importance of eye contact and smiles, yes those are actual things that will make anyone feel friendly toward you and find you interesting. Make the friendly smile with lips closed and cheeks slightly pulled back while you make eye contact 1 to 3 seconds. If he holds the eye contact and smiles back, it indicates that you might appeal to him. From this point, try standing or sitting as closely to him as you may when possible. Continue to make brief eye contact, look down (at his neck or chest maybe), then back at him; if he is still looking at you of course that is a plus for you. Practice this smile in the mirror so it looks natural and not phony, it's an easy one to make.
You are shy, but at some point you will have to actually make conversation. Limit what you reveal about yourself in the beginning. Don't just start babbling, either, or you might say something you regret. Your scope of conversational subjects should be limited to things that might interest him and on which he might be able to comment. Once you've got him talking, keep him talking about himself by nodding, saying, umm, oohh, wow, and so forth. Try to avoid direct questions, but make statements on which he may comment about himself. Avoid complaining or criticizing anything, avoid saying no, say uhhhh, unh unh instead.
Finally, don't worry whether he already has a girlfriend. If he avoids exchanging smiles and eye contact, it probably means he does not find himself free at the moment--but that does not mean the future will not change, so if you wish you may remain in his periphery with your smiles and eye contact. He will at least, no doubt, want to engage in conversation this girl with the friendly smile he often catches gazing at him.1