i think i'm a late bloomer, and I haven't kissed a girl yet. I just turned 25. i was total loser in middle school and early high school, but i gradually improved myself. i got better at conversation and started taking care of myself. i don't know when it happened exactly (21,22?), but i guess i'm a decent guy now. I guess this random event began to change how I saw myself:
about 2 years ago, i drove sister's friends to a party. my younger sister's gorgeous sorority roommate sat in my car and told me that a lot of the girls in the sorority secretly gossiped about me. She then began to literally lecture me about how i needed to know i was really, really, really cute and a great guy. She ordered me to be more confident...(it was the strangest drunken lecture, i guess my sister told her that i was depressed about never dating). This really shocked me. At that point, I had given up on a lot in life, including my studies. I'm trying to think of myself as a catch now, but it's hard.
All the years of thinking of myself as a loser have scarred me. I am clueless and scared of dating. All my friends are guys with long term gfs, so they don't offer much help. I messed up the few chances I had in college. I don't talk to anyone now as a grad student. I have no idea how to flirt, and I feel like a creep if I try. I try to think that the girl I'm talking to finds me attractive, but it doesn't feel like it. I don't see any "signals" or maybe I'm just missing them. I usually chicken out and keep the conversation friendly, which is what I'm good at.
I feel like if I could just get a few dates, I could finally figure out how everything works. It makes me sad that others my age or older haven't done anything. I sound desperate, but I hate hearing others tell me I just need to be patient or being alone is actually better. It feels weird trying to start at 25. I don't even know what age range i can date haha. I did join okcupid and a club, but no luck yet.
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Try dating apps or blind dates. Get a friend to set you or even your sister !!! Maybe a drink for confidence? ? You sound like a nice intellectual guy, the good girls now that's the catch... Unfoetunally we are a rare breed now a days haha so keep looking and don't give up. Beat of luck 🍀1