Decided to enter into a friends with benefits relationship. Despite my reservations. However, we didn't talk frequency. Should this have been discussed? Unless it's once a week on average it's not worth my time. Sometimes two weeks but on average every week. I'm thinking before we that this relationship any further it needs to be discussed. My last one went bad because it was never discussed. I felt like he was holding me on a string.
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You should probably discuss, casually, I mean your /friends/, right? :P - your sexual proclivity. That is, how often you want to have sex, really. No pre agreed on amounts (by which I mean, 'I solemnly swear that we will have sex once a week at least', lol that's... silly & that's just superrr iffy to me. Obviously be willing to budge a little if you're able, but also be firm about when you actually can't, or just don't want to, budge. Boundaries are good and healthy. Anyway, you should nonetheless let him know you'll look elsewhere if he's not 'satisfying' you 'enough' :P hehe. Not in a threatening way, tho.. tbh, I don't see why you can't be having sex with him and some other dude/person (if yr not only into dude, I don't know I've literally just got on here 2day!!) if he's good in bed, but not wanting it as much as you. But honestly we're jumping the gun here.
Even tho I ID as lesbian now, I've had my share of dalliances with dudes, so.. haha. Nah, generally speaking, the dudes I've been with consider 'every day' to be a moderate amount of sex. lmfao. Maybe I've just been with a load of horny frustrated teenage boys, but! Look, you're implying a week is excessive? I don't know your dude, obvs, but I'd bet ya he's gonna be fine with once-a-week sex, if not thrilled about it, LOL.0