me and my online boyfriend just recently talked on the phone for the first time and it was absolutely perfect, I wasn't nervous at all and we both seemed to say all the right things without any awkward silences. and even when there was silences it wasn't awkward at all because it was at the end of our conversation (at 7 in the morning) and we were both falling asleep. we talked for 4 and a half hours and everything was perfect. last night he called me again but it seemed different, like I was more nervous than the last time and there were more silences. I don't want him to feel differently about me with this new transition from online to actually speaking to each other... I don't know why I'm more nervous now than when we talked for the first time. I found it harder to think of things to talk about and I felt like everything I said was stupid.
why is it like this all of a sudden and what are some things we can talk about?
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Online dating is the way of the future, so some would say. It isn't stupid, so don't get discouraged. However, it can be unsafe. Just be careful. I don't understand why he became nervous, but don't sweat it. Don't let it bother you. If you do, then you'll be affected by his nervousness and become nervous yourself. Try to get him to do some talking. You know his interest, right? Talk about movies, school work, plans for the weekend. If all else fails, pull up a list online of questions to ask him. Try to avoid questions that may cause one word responses. Try to avoid awkward questions that may lead him to tense up. Ask him about hobbies, I would avoid politics and religion. Places to visit, places you have visited, music, cars, friends, etc. Open ended questions are the best ones to go with though ;) Good luck0