Boyfriend likes to put his hands around my throat? Should I be worried?

When we're kissing or having sex, sometimes he will put his hand on my throat. Not hard or anything but it scares me a little, knowing that he could hurt me so easily. He's done it 4 times now and I don't know whether I should be worried or not. Should I say something to him?

  • Yes, you should be worried.
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  • No, it's normal.
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  • As long as he's not hurting you, it's fine.
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  • Some people like light choking because they think it's kinky. It's not much to worry about unless he actually hurts you. However, if it still makes you uncomfortable or worried, just tell him that it doesn't really do anything for you and that you wish he'd stop, because it's a little scary.

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What Guys Said 4

  • If his behaviour is based on anger on tenancies towards S&M, I would be concerned. I won't be popular for saying this, but I believe that a desire towards aggressive sexual behaviour (whether giving or receiving) is a sign of of something being wrong. By that I mean he could be projecting an unmet inner desire or deep frustration. But let's leave the psycho analysing for another place. All I know is that men often have control issues, and sexual dominance can be a way to vent that.

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  • Talk to him be very firm and tell him thats the last time you ever put your hands on my throat in anyway and I mean anyway in rough sex or just kissing or horse playing around he will then get the point. If he does it again walk and move on

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  • A lot of girls like it, he may just have had exes who liked it and assume you do to. If you don't want him to do it anymore tell him to stop.

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  • Maybe he's just kinky like that. you need to talk to him and tell him how it scares you

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What Girls Said 3

  • If you're uncomfortable with it, tell him, otherwise he'll keep doing it. I don't really think you should be worried, but if you don't like it, speak up.

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  • just like my boyfriend he sometimes go behind me and place his hand at 90 degree around my neck and kiss me sometimes from front he touches my neck at the beginning then he starts to put both of his hands around my neck and he squeeze a little bit but sometimes he can get in the mood and just choke me so hard.. so i simply asked him not to do it because it is scaring me so he found other things to do like play with my hair or just touch my neck

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  • my bf does that too. He's choked me once. It's supposed to make you reach orgasm faster but it doesn't do anything to me. I haven't told him yet since he's only done it once but I hate when he does that too. Just tell him you don't like it and that it doesn't work on you.

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