I am pretty realistic when it comes to realizing that men rarely call exactly when they say they will, but this guy has me a little off kilter. I met him at a bar and we were having a great time- good conversation, dancing, laughs etc. I gave him my number, we kind of messed around, but didn't go "all the way" and at the end of the night he asked what I was doing Monday (it was Saturday at the time) and told me he would call me. He didn't which didn't entirely surprise me, but still: is it more likely that if a guy says he will call you on a specific day after asking if you had plans that he will call (at least eventually) than he would if he just said "I'll call you"? I know women at bars tend to be more of conquest material than girlfriend material and blah blah blah but is there really all that pressure for a man to say he will call when the girl isn't remotely pushy about it?
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Is there pressure? Somewhat. Your mind is still reeling from the experience so you don't want to perhaps ruin a good thing so you tell them that you'll call. Then as you digest the situation a bit further you start to wonder and wonder turns into stalling, etc.
Bottom line, he may still call you or he may just have told you what he thought you wanted to hear. Time will tell but, yes, sometimes we feel the pressure to say the right thing to let them down easy but I've learned a while ago, at least for myself, that is was more of a selfish act so that I didn't have to feel bad as my intentions were good - I planned to call but never got around to it because of work, family, the weather, you name it.0